If you’ve ever procrastinated on doing something that you knew would be good for you, you are definitely not alone! Many of us are good at hesitating, delaying, wavering on a decision, or not taking action even when we know it would be helpful.
Recently a client asked why she wasn’t practicing the stress-relief techniques she had learned when she knew that they helped her. The truth is, that happens sometimes.
You know that taking a slow, calming breath will help you ease a stressful situation, but you don’t. You might know that sitting quietly for five minutes to clear your mind will help you feel calmer and help the rest of your day go smoother, but you can’t seem to find the time. Maybe you’re “forgetting” simply because you haven’t practiced enough yet to make it a habit.
And there are some who have an existing practice that is working great to reduce their stress, and then they stop practicing, for no reason that is apparent to them.
It’s sometimes called self-sabotage: a way of keeping things the same because sometimes your brain thinks that change is a scary thing. Your brain is just trying to keep you safe. What might happen if you actually reduced your stress and worked on taking care of yourself? What would it mean if you made progress de-cluttering? What if you sent that application or started that new course? Who might not like it if things changed? Those questions might be scary things to consider, and so your brain distracts you from taking action. You’re stuck. You know what to do but you don’t do it.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT tapping) is great at helping to unravel self-sabotage patterns like that. You can tap and talk about the feelings you have when you avoid doing things. This allows you to gently investigate and then reduce the associated negative feelings and emotions so you can move on.
EFT gets you “unstuck” by removing the self-sabotage blocks in your energy system. I love watching people untangle this frustration and then move forward to change their lives for the better.
And what if you don’t want to tap? Wait for it… Do this: Tap on the points while saying, “I don’t want to tap. I won’t tap. I don’t want to tap. I don’t know why I don’t want to tap, but I’m not going to tap. No way. I’m not tapping. It’s just not happening.” What happened? What changed? Did you feel a smile forming? How do you feel now about tapping? By tapping on your resistance, you can release it and take that next step. “And I’m okay.”
You’re not alone in your procrastination or self-sabotage, and you CAN find your way out.
Keep calm and Tap on!
Please remember: It's important to contact a professional if things feel too big for you, whether it be a physician, psychologist, psychiatrist, or certified EFT practitioner. Never discontinue your current medications without first consulting your doctor.