“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life…The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes.” — Charles R. Swindoll
I’ve heard this quote many times in one form or another and it appeared on my path today, inspiring some thoughts and a few words about this attitude thing. It all sounds so easy, right? If we just change our attitude, we change our lives because it’s all about how we react to things.
But there have been days in the past where this was much easier said than done. Some days I would get so deep into that dark well of frustration, feeling discouraged and resentful, that it was hard to climb out. It became a badge of honor to carry around all this bad stuff that kept happening. “This is never going to get any better!” And when the next bad thing happened, it just reinforced the belief that nothing good ever happens, or if it did, waiting for the other shoe to fall. Sound familiar?
When I reached out for help years ago, it felt like someone shining a flashlight into that deep, dark well to help me see my way out. With a little time and the help of amazing friends, teachers, and coaches, I relearned a way of thinking and being. And if someone as stubborn as I can do that, I know we can all make that choice. It’s possible to see a glimmer of light and hope, allowing us to accept the idea that we DO have a choice about how we react. We CAN choose our attitude at any moment. As Charles Swindoll said, “we are in charge of our attitudes.” Ready to take charge of your attitude?
Yes, it takes effort. No, it’s not always easy to make the choice to have a good attitude. But with a few simple tools, it gets much easier.
- Learn to recognize your own signs of starting the downward spiral and stop it in its tracks.
- Remember to breathe your way back to your center where you can make a better choice.
- Practice EFT tapping daily to keep yourself and your energy clear, so you are better able to tackle whatever comes with a good attitude.
- Celebrate each win.
- And remember to give yourself some quiet time each day to reflect on what is good in your life. I promise it is there once we choose to see it.
Reaching out for help when you need it is not always easy, so start with someone you trust completely, and then widen your circle of support in the way that feels right. You’ve got this! Questions? I’m here.
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Please remember: It's important to contact a professional if things feel too big for you, whether it be a physician, psychologist, psychiatrist, or certified EFT practitioner. Never discontinue your current medications without first consulting your doctor.