Happiness Revisited

When asked what it is that we want most in life, most of us respond that we just want to be happy. And there are almost as many definitions of happiness as there are people on this beautiful planet.

As time goes by, our vision of happiness may change. When we’re young, happiness might be getting our own car, and then later, it might be having a newer model car in a specific color with certain features. Our music preferences can change and that coveted album by the coolest band ever is no longer on our happiness radar. Having a closet stuffed full of clothes might have made us happy in the past, but now it’s having a smaller number of just the right clothes that make us feel great.

Sometimes we hold on to old beliefs about what would make us happy, so revisiting our thoughts about happiness can help us see things in a new way. Often what we think would make us happy is something in the future or just beyond our reach, like “When I get that job,” or “if I could just go to Europe for vacation.” We all have goals, and that’s great. But when a reason for happiness is always just out of reach, that can cause unnecessary chronic stress. It’s time to let go of some of that stress…

What if we took a moment to reconsider? Instead of limiting our definition of happiness to what we might get or do in the future, we can ask ourselves what makes us happy in this moment. This might take a little effort, but the rewards are amazing and can change the quality of life. Is there a reason to feel happy right now?

Some people are happy when they’re dancing, singing, or playing music. Some are happy when they see their children happy. Some people are happy when they go out to eat. Some enjoy the feeling of sunshine on their face. There are definitely reasons to be happy all around us in every moment.

When we take the time to really look at the colors in the sunrise or sunset, happiness might be right there waiting for us. When someone holds the door open for us, we can find happiness in that act of kindness being offered. When we hold the door open for someone else, we can choose to feel happiness in the act of being helpful. And I promise, the more often we take a moment to allow happiness into our day, the more opportunities we’ll see to be happy.

It’s all about noticing the possibilities around us, then inviting and allowing happiness to bring a smile to our face. So tell me, what is inviting happiness for you right now? I challenge you to find one thing… and let me know what it is!

Please remember: It's important to contact a professional if things feel too big for you, whether it be a physician, psychologist, psychiatrist, or certified EFT practitioner. Never discontinue your current medications without first consulting your doctor.