Ever heard the expression “the only thing that is constant is change?” Well, I am living with that particular constant right now. Changes have saturated my life the past 2 months. Most of the changes are good, some of them less so. But good or bad, change creates stress. Yes, even good changes create stress! What are the things stressing me out lately?
- We have taken almost 2 months to clean up, fix up, and prepare our house for sale. It has been more work than expected, much of it more physically demanding that I am accustomed to lately. Little aches and pains, sore muscles, and fatigue have been frequent.
- After all that work, our home went on the market. I am thankful that we had such abundant interest in our home that we had a fully signed contract within 36 hours. Great news, but it all seems to be happening so fast!
- We are significantly downsizing our “stuff.” Going through each box of memories and meaningful gifts from family and friends, deciding what to do with each thing, takes an emotional toll.
- The reality of leaving the best neighbors we’ve ever had is sinking in. Our cul-de-sac group of 3 families has cared for each other the entire time we’ve lived here, almost 14 years. I will dearly miss them.
- I will also miss my garden! This will be the first time in 13 seasons that I have not planted tomatoes. Yes, very stressful.
When I am stressed, I turn to several techniques that work well for me. I take 5 slow, deep breaths often, I meditate each morning to keep the edge off, I am mindful and find gratitude anywhere I can, and I use EFT Tapping. I meet each decision and reality check that comes my way with awareness of how I feel, where I feel it, and how intensely I feel it. I tap on my emotions and sensations often. I tap as they come up to keep things from piling up on me. I tap as I’m driving to donate items or to recycle them. I tap when I wake up in the middle of the night worried about all the work to be done in a short time. I tap without words sometimes because often there just are no words. What does all this tapping do for me?
- I am a little stronger now because of all the work we’ve been doing. And I’m happy that I’ve learned a few new skills that will come in handy in the future. Caulking is definitely an art. 🙂
- Now I am focusing on being thankful for such a quick sale and not having to keep the house in ‘showing condition’ for a long time.
- Re-gifting has given us joy as we either return the thoughtful gifts to those who gave them to us, or send them onward for their next adventure.
- We know the new owners will be welcomed and cared for by our awesome neighbors because they are just that, awesome.
- I decided to go ahead and plant peas, greens, and herbs even though we won’t be here when they are ready to harvest and hope the new ownerss will enjoy the bounty of the garden.
So rather than allowing the stress of all these changes to take the joy out of my life, I tap to remember and acknowledge everything that is good. And I take the time to be still and find that one point in my life that never changes: the constant glow from the light in my heart that is fed by gratitude.
Change happens. How we respond makes all the difference.
Keep Calm and Tap On!