A New Type of Resolution

Happy Season of Lights in whatever tradition you choose to Celebrate. This darkest time of year brings festivities and celebrations of light and family and gift giving all over the world. I’m happy to be sharing time with our extended family this year, soaking in the smiles and simple pleasures of our traditions. And I’m enjoying a little time off which gives me time to contemplate what’s next for me. Which naturally guided me to thinking about resolutions…

Instead of making New Year’s resolutions that last on average 2.7 weeks and lead to those familiar feelings of failure (there was that gym membership and the diet…), what if we could simply make a plan for what we really want to do and have in our life? What if we could intentionally create our life? What does that even mean???

Maybe 2018 was an awesome year for you and you realized everything that you set out to do. If so, congratulations! Amazing job at first getting clear about what you wanted and then working toward your goals until you met them!

But if 2018 came and went in whatever direction the wind was blowing, there might be a better way to make 2019 a year lived intentionally. You actually do have a choice about what happens over the next year. Yep. And it means sitting down, gifting yourself some time to think, and making some plans.

To have a better chance at success, you can break it down into small enough chunks that you can more easily map out a path to your goals. What do you want your job to look like in a year? How about your relationships? What about your car? What health goals do you have? Where do you want to be living? How much money do you want to make? Where do you want to travel?

As a first step, silence all the devices, turn off all the screens and find a quiet place to think about all these questions. And identify the first chunk to work on.

For example, if you really want a new job, define that new job exactly with what’s important to you (location, salary, amount of travel, benefits, promotion potential…), make a list of the steps you need to get it (research, resume, necessary experience, licenses, references, contacts…), and then create a timeline for completing those steps in a way that will lead to reaching your goal when you want it. Make an intention to get that perfect new job and see it happening. Live with daily intention toward that goal. Act with daily intention. Live on purpose to reach your goal. Intention is key.

And of course EFT Tapping can help you identify and map out the steps to reach your goal. If or when you get stuck moving forward, tap about that. Notice what’s in your way. Feeling fear of trying for the next level? Tap about that! Worried you’re not good enough? You can tap on that, too. Daily.

My new favorite phrase is “Baby Steps to Possible.” In fact it’s the title of a talk I’m giving next April. (One of my goals in 2018: get speaking gigs in 2019, and it’s happening!) My biggest goal was to write and publish a book in 2018. I never thought that would be possible for me. And Done! I’ve learned that if I break things down into small enough pieces and just take the next step, with intention and courage, I can do things and reach goals I never thought possible. If I can do this, I know you can too.

What’s your plan for your beautiful self for next year? I’d love to hear about it.

Peaceful Holidays to you all.

Please remember: It's important to contact a professional if things feel too big for you, whether it be a physician, psychologist, psychiatrist, or certified EFT practitioner. Never discontinue your current medications without first consulting your doctor.